I’d already told you. my parents thought I was going to be a boy. but nope. I was a girl and I grew up believing I could do anything I wanted. I never knew being a woman could be a disadvantage. my parents never told me I couldn’t do anything and they encouraged me to
90% of my family is made up of women. my dad and mom grew up among sisters and very few men. almost all of them had daughters. whenever the family comes together almost everybody is a woman. I grew up among empowered women. there was no other choice for me, I’d have to be an empowered woman when I grew up.
I can’t remember any moment in my life in which I thought: fuck, I can’t do this because I’m a woman. I’ve been lucky enough to work with men that believe in equality and that respect my ideas.
I’ve been in a very privileged position my whole life. I have been able to study, go out, take my own decisions, make the same money as men, be a boss… I’ve never felt frustrated for being a woman (except on those days of the month). really, I’ve never felt like my life is super different from the life of my guy friends.
I’ve been super lucky. there are women that have to fight every day for their rights, that have a lot of problems just because they’re women. if you’ve talked about this with me, you know I can rant about it for hours. I’m outraged about a lot of things and what outrages me the most is that people don’t get outraged. why aren’t you mad about women being harassed in the streets? WHYYYYY?
maybe you’re not outraged because it has never happened to you.
a friend told me once that his cousin had to take an 8 hour bus ride in a bus full of men, her being the only woman. O M G. nothing happened but imagine feeling unsafe for 8 hours straight. I’m sure none of those guys felt that.
maybe you’re not outraged because you’ve never walked in the street and all of the sudden were catcalled (in the best case scenario). I guess you’ve never been afraid of taking an Uber o Cabify at 4 in the morning to get back home. chances are you’ve never been harassed at work. maybe you don’t have to inform everyone whenever you arrived home safely or about your whereabouts al the time.
sometimes discussions end in: Jus, don’t get mad… it’s just a joke. and NOPE. it’s not a joke. I’m getting angry again.
but, instead of getting angry, I’ll make something constructive. I’ll recommend you to read We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi (she also wrote Purple Hibiscus which I
I really liked it because it explains perfectly why we have to be feminists and why it isn’t that difficult to be one. also, it’s super easy to read and it doesn’t use confusing words haha. here’s a quote:
Some people ask: “Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?” Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general—but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women.
because we also need feminism so men won’t be judged if they want to use long hair, if they want to have a Chihuahua, or if they want to drive these cars. this is not a fight so women can be better, it’s a fight so we have all the same chances in life.
and, to end this very important post, some notes on feminism and my favorite topic, me:
- yes, I’m a feminist
- no, I don’t hate men. well, some of them. but also some women. but I don’t hate them because of their gender, I hate them because they’re awful people. because if we’re going to hate someone, let’s do it with complete knowledge of who they are and not just because of prejudices
- one day a dude described himself as an intersectional feminist while we were on a date and I was like 🔥💞 , but that’s another story
- my favorite pop culture feminists: Peggy Olson forever and ever, Joan Holloway, Tina Belcher (maybe all of the Belchers), Liz Lemon, Imperator Furiosa, and Emily Gilmore in Gilmore Girls A Year in the Life
we should all be feminists, stop resisting it.